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Simple things to cope with Negative People

Posted on: 03/02/2011

Since I’m not sure where to post I’ve decided to post my last entry here, too!

Do you know negative people? The kind, that tries to push you down? Who say that the things you do are crap and it’s just a waste of time? People who – like me – want to live their dreams know what I’m talking about.
I’m not an expert in how to deal with every situation perfectly and always stay happy. But I’m learning and maybe together we could become very strong people some day who can handle everything!

Sometimes when I’m very sensitive or insecure because I’m feeling lost, I tend to listen to people who could easily affect me. Let’s say someone says that your activities are crap, your dreams are stupid and worthless, what would you do? You will probably be angry or sad.
You start asking yourself, whether this person may be right or not.

But you have to remember: it has nothing to do with you. You enjoy those things and love them. You have dreams you want to pursue. Why should someone take it away from you only because of a negative comment?

Try to stay positive about yourself. If someone wants to push you down, just ignore that.
Stay calm and laugh it away. You will see how baffled this person will be.

I know it is hard and you have to remind yourself but try it! Sometimes I’m weak, too. But that’s okay. We are human and we have feelings. But we always have to look after ourselves. We should be happy and live a happy life. Life is too short to waste our time with negative thoughts.

The next thing is how to stay happy and positive. Every person deals with situations differently. For instance, I love listening to music that builds me up. I love watching people on youtube. I love reading articles about people I like. These things build me up and motivate me.
Sometimes I’m in a bad mood and every person could literally upset me because I’m frustrated. Then I start listening to music and watch some videos and I begin to feel better.
I put myself into good humour and nothing could affect me. I build a wall of happiness that shines.

One thing we always forget is that people who push us down are like obstacles we have to overcome in life. We have to find a way to get through it. It could be strangers or best friends. But instead of hate them you actually could help them by shining with our positive energy and happiness!

For example people at your school or acquaintances, who don’t believe in you. Do they really affect your mind that much? Can they really make you wanting to stop yourself? Maybe you have a dream and those people try to push you down by saying that you will never make it, or that you will fail. Do you really want to listen to these people? You have better things to do. As well as your best friends – even close friends can be negative and sometimes it’s your job to shine on them.

But don’t try to fix them. It’s not your fault that they are negative. Focus on your things and life. It’s right to help but you will be only drained and that’s not what you want.

Do you have other tips to overcome negative people? How do YOU handle such situations?

Let’s shine!

~mako

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2 Responses to "Simple things to cope with Negative People"

I like your way to handle negative people. I am surrounded by them. I feel lost , sad and helpless.

I know how hard it could be =( Sometimes you want to stop yourself and give in because you think you’re not strong enough. But you should try to find something that really helps you to make you happy or to stay positive about everything. Try to say to yourself that nobody can stop you and you would never stop yourself for someone who is so negative or tries to push you down.

On your blog you said that you love reading. Enjoy your favourite book and divert yourself from negative thoughts or people.
Don’t let them take you down. Seize the day and grow with something you love and enjoy.

It also helps me to stop thinking about it. Right now I have a tough time because of personal things. And every time I talk with a person who is SO negative and think that nothing could help him, I give in and I feel myself so drained that I actually think about doing nothing for the rest of the day. But I always remind me of what I have to do and that nothing should stop me.

I’m sorry that I talk too much T_T But it’s not that easy and I hope I can help you a little bit T_T

These songs makes me always stronger and happier. I hope they can help you, too!



Have a nice day and stay strong!

~mako

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